Denise Pettit and her husband grieved for their baby boy only to find out 5 years later that their baby they desperately missed was actually a girl. Denise's first baby was born in 1993 which they were told was a boy and they called him Ryan. The family were obviously devastated but were fortunate to go on to have a further two children and at this point Denise wanted to give something back to the charity who helped her. She took phone calls and emails from bereaved parents and ran the West Lothian befriending group. She watched parents bring in photos of their babies and began to wonder if the hospital had any photos of her little one. With the help of Dorothy and Jeni she found out there were pictures taken but on a visit to the hospital to pick these up, learned that her baby boy was actually a baby girl. This was obviously devastating news for the family. They decided to name their baby Ashley but kept Ryan as the middle name as this had been the name they had been saying for 5 years. Denise then went on to have a little girl but has always remained in contact with SANDS Lothians and says she will remain forever grateful for their support. Denise works at Tesco Bank Glasgow and recently approached her work to ask if they could support the charity who supported her 24 years ago. Yesterday 14 of her work colleagues came in to volunteer their time doing various jobs to help. The group split up and some went over to our charity shop to unpack new donations while another group made up a years worth of hospital memory bags. A car load went in search of new sofas for our befriending room and some did some IT and research in the office. What a wonderful bunch of people and we are so extremely grateful to them for their time and hard work. They also held a race night last weekend and raised almost £1700 which is outstanding.
We know Denise got lots of comfort having her work colleagues support her in this way and we are grateful to Denise for allowing us to share her story.
Remembering little Ashley Ryan - briefly known, forever loved.